I feel terrible for what I did.

You should feel bad about the ding. You should feel good about coming clean about it to your friend. Could have turned ugly between him and the builder. Mention it again next time you see your friend. He will have time to think about it and have a solution. It he says forget about. Then feel yourself lucky and forget about it.

Larry
 
I agree with most others,,you did what you could to make it right. It was a accident,,,nothing more you can do. It's not the end of the world.

I have a friend that is anal about his predator. He treats it as if it is made of glass. But even he knows ,,it happens.
But I won't even touch his stick when he is around. lol
 
Get an estimate of cost from your friendly neighborhood cue repair person and pass it along to your friend. It'll let him know that you are serious about fixing the problem and might help ease your pain a bit.
It's like "Two Tooth" Sally and her problem with CED (Chronic Explosive Diarrhea). Shit happens, may she rest in peace. :)
 
bigshooter said:
I was in a sport bar practicing tonight and two of my teammates were there too.
So one of my teammates just bought a cue from the other and we were checking it out together.

He pulls it out of the case still wrapped in the plastic, unwraps it, hands it to me and says 'check it out' I ask him 'are you sure, it's never even been chalked'
he insisted so I started hitting balls with it.

So he walks into the other room and while he is gone I get off balance a bit and bump the butt into the metal part of the Valley pocket and ding the hell out of it. Like a deep finish ding almost to the wood.

So he comes back and puts the cue in the case without noticing the ding. So I sit there feeling terrible for awhile and finally man up and tell him what happened.

He was trying hard to be nice about it but he is visibly upset.

I offered to pay the local cue guy to touch it up, I didn't know what else to do.
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I'm not going to be so lovey dovey. You screwed up. But so did he by letting you hit with it.

But there are two things to make you feel better:

  • I let people shoot with my player all the time
  • A cue isn't a player until it's got some battle scars
  • Expect to pay for the refinish, but if he refuses then the issue is over
  • Give him your cue to play with....

Freddie <~~~ plenty of battle scars
 
bigshooter said:
I was in a sport bar practicing tonight and two of my teammates were there too.
So one of my teammates just bought a cue from the other and we were checking it out together.

He pulls it out of the case still wrapped in the plastic, unwraps it, hands it to me and says 'check it out' I ask him 'are you sure, it's never even been chalked'
he insisted so I started hitting balls with it.

So he walks into the other room and while he is gone I get off balance a bit and bump the butt into the metal part of the Valley pocket and ding the hell out of it. Like a deep finish ding almost to the wood.

So he comes back and puts the cue in the case without noticing the ding. So I sit there feeling terrible for awhile and finally man up and tell him what happened.

He was trying hard to be nice about it but he is visibly upset.

I offered to pay the local cue guy to touch it up, I didn't know what else to do.
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If the cue was going to be an everyday player, it's going to end up getting even more nicks and dings in it anyway. It's the nature of the beast. You did about all you can do by offering to have it repaired, and it's an EASY repair. Show me an everyday playing cue that has no nicks and dings and I'll show you a poolplayer that is too focused on the cue and not the balls on the table. All my playing cues have some sort of minor dings on them. Most of the bigger ones on some of my semi-retired everyday players are from me loaning them to friends/teammates and them coming back to me with nicks/dings. For this reason, I do not EVER loan out a cue anymore. If someone wants to look at one of my cues or hit a few balls with it, I'll let them do that, but I'll be standing right there beside them as they're doing so.

As for your situation, I would have felt bad too. We are curious as to the brand/maker of the cue. Would you tell us? Your offering to fix it was about all you could have done short of offering to buy it from him.

Sh*t happens, runs downhill, then it's soon out of your life. This feeling will pass. You will make it right. The cue will be okay. Your buddy will forgive you. Give it a couple days.

Maniac
 
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I loaned a Madison Bob sneaky to a teammate once. He missed a shot and in anger slammed the shaft against the edge of the table, then looked at me with a guilty look on his face.

Oh well.
 
I've probably had more cues badly dinged by people trying one out or loaning to friends than anybody on the planet, and this is what I've noticed:

  • Guys typically do not own up to it (even if there are 10-dings on a new cue)
  • Some people are just hard on cues and it doesn't matter if it's their cue or not
  • There are a lot of clumsy mother ****ers out there

I'm learning but it's been an expensive process.
I recently sold an unchalked Tim Scruggs cue with an ivory joint, and I would not let the buyer hit with it before he bought it.
 
alstl said:
I loaned a Madison Bob sneaky to a teammate once. He missed a shot and in anger slammed the shaft against the edge of the table, then looked at me with a guilty look on his face.

Oh well.
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When the OB Classic shaft first came out, I ordered one 30" long. Got it delivered on a Wednesday, BCA league night. Took the shaft to the poolhall early for some practice with it. While the cue was propped-up on the Q-Claw, a teammate/friend bumped a barstool, tipping it badly enough that it bumped my cue, sending it crashing into the framework of another barstool :frown:. My brand new shaft had TWO dings in it. One about four inches from the ferrule and the other about ten inches further down the shaft.

He said he was sorry, but didn't even offer to have it fixed :mad:.

I no longer play pool with this man, nor do I really consider him much of a friend.

Good news is, I was able to "lift" the dings out with steam and after a light sanding, the shaft was as good as new (Hell, it WAS new :rolleyes:)

Maniac
 
cuesblues said:
I've probably had more cues badly dinged by people trying one out or loaning to friends than anybody on the planet, and this is what I've noticed:

  • Guys typically do not own up to it (even if there are 10-dings on a new cue)
  • Some people are just hard on cues and it doesn't matter if it's their cue or not
  • There are a lot of clumsy mother ****ers out there

I'm learning but it's been an expensive process.
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Like I said earlier, I put dings in my playing cues. But, they are all very minor finish dings. The dings that my loaner cues have gotten from my friends/teammates seem like they are almost always the big gash that gets into the wood. So, I know firsthand what you mean in the above quoted part of your post!!!

Maniac
 
Valley pocket? There's your problem right there, cues attract 7x - 9x the number of dings when around bar tables :)

No but seriously, good that you spoke up. It's kinda like when you ding someone's bumper pulling out of a parking spot, and you know you could just keep driving, but you find the owner or leave a note. Cuz that's how you'd want to be treated in their shoes. Not to mention he doesn't need to be Sherlock Holmes to figure out where it came from, in this case.

Hopefully he understands the cue is just an instrument and not a Fabergé egg.
 
You are a terrible human...but not for the events below.:eek:

bigshooter said:
I was in a sport bar practicing tonight and two of my teammates were there too.
So one of my teammates just bought a cue from the other and we were checking it out together.

He pulls it out of the case still wrapped in the plastic, unwraps it, hands it to me and says 'check it out' I ask him 'are you sure, it's never even been chalked'
he insisted so I started hitting balls with it.

So he walks into the other room and while he is gone I get off balance a bit and bump the butt into the metal part of the Valley pocket and ding the hell out of it. Like a deep finish ding almost to the wood.

So he comes back and puts the cue in the case without noticing the ding. So I sit there feeling terrible for awhile and finally man up and tell him what happened.

He was trying hard to be nice about it but he is visibly upset.

I offered to pay the local cue guy to touch it up, I didn't know what else to do.
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WOW!!! First off kudos to you for saying something. I would've done the same. Still, don't feel bad for ever it happens. A couple of weeks back, the hubs and I went to a tournament at a new bar, for the life of us, the damn cues kept falling over and over and over and over. Talk about battle scars, my player cue is a rare breed of Ricco (I've had it 18 years now) and his is a Predator that we've had a few months. I'm still beating myself over it. Most of the time we are super cautious with them.

What timing for your thread too, hubs just ordered me a new cue, one that I'd been looking for about a year and I finally found it online last night. It's nothing fancy under $200, but I bet you no one besides the hubs will be laying a hand on it.

Shit happens, and you did the right thing, Kudos to you again.
 
bigshooter said:
I was in a sport bar practicing tonight and two of my teammates were there too.
So one of my teammates just bought a cue from the other and we were checking it out together.

He pulls it out of the case still wrapped in the plastic, unwraps it, hands it to me and says 'check it out' I ask him 'are you sure, it's never even been chalked'
he insisted so I started hitting balls with it.

So he walks into the other room and while he is gone I get off balance a bit and bump the butt into the metal part of the Valley pocket and ding the hell out of it. Like a deep finish ding almost to the wood.

So he comes back and puts the cue in the case without noticing the ding. So I sit there feeling terrible for awhile and finally man up and tell him what happened.

He was trying hard to be nice about it but he is visibly upset.

I offered to pay the local cue guy to touch it up, I didn't know what else to do.
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You inadvertently did the guy a favor , he won't be worrying about putting dings in his new cue now . It was bound to happen anyway , if he actually shoots pool and doesn't just look at it . If he is one of those pool cue collector types he is probably border line psychotic and most likely takes things like this out on his wife .
 
Friend of mine seen that happen

poolrod said:
I was in a bar once, there's a shock, and a guy handed a friend of mine a Palmer to check out, he raised it up to read the original by Palmer inside the window, and stuck the shaft in a ceiling fan,lol. There were shaft parts flying everywhere. At least you didn't do that. Your friend should thank you, you just took the pressure off of him, putting the first ding in it.:grin-square:
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A friend of mine was running a tourney back in the early 80's. It was at a strip club, and he ran it twice a year. He always scheduled it on a dead weekend, between a Pro tourney in KY. and one in Oh. so he could get some Pro players to show up. Buddy Hall shows up with a brand new Balabushka and is showing it to a couple of guys. This stripper says, "thats really pretty, can I look at it?" Yea, lifted it right into the ceiling fan, and put 4 or 5 nice dents in a brand new shaft. Gotta be real careful about letting people see your cue.
 
Chopdoc said:
I have to explain this to my daughter all the time. One is not excused because it is an accident. One should in fact feel badly, feel guilt or shame, if one is functioning correctly.
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Chop,

Am I mis-interpreting your post?

If you notice, I put the word 'SO' in capps.

I did not say that he should not feel bad because it was an accident. But accidents do happen. However when an accident happens as a result of one's faulty actions we don't usually sentence them to death. It is merely expected of them to make ammends for the damage caused by their faulty actions.

When a boy throws a baseball through a window, just saying your sorry is not enough, the window must be replaced, but the boy is not sent to reform school. Now if the boy is caught stealing hub caps that's a different scenario.

As I suggested in my post I think he shoud buy the dinged cue so his friend can get a new one. Make restitution. Don't persecute yourself til you ruin your personality.

I hope that is more clear. I certainly did not mean to convey to just blow it off because it was an accident.

Regards to You &
 
Shit happens. You offer to pay for the repair. What else can you do? Only thing you can do is offer a second time to pay for repair, if he declines, you did your best to make it right.
 
My rule of thumb is this; if you drive a car that is covered with dents, duct tape, bald tires and cracked windows, NO you can not handle my cue. Yes, as a matter of fact my cue is worth more than your car.
 
you guys make it to complicated. just ask your friend what he thinks you can do to make it right so he is happy. and do what he asks.
 
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