Teaching our children to gamble/hussle

I just came home from a ring game, one of the players had his daughter there, she couldn't of been more than 8 yr old. The guys kept swearing and all, and I had to more than once tell em to ''shut up'', eventually that didn't help, they were concerned only about themselves, I left, too distracting and tooooooo wrong. I've raised two daughters and don't tolerate these actions very well.

Good for you Bill.

But couldn't the player have gotten a baby sitter for his 8 year old daughter. Sheesh!
 
I can't wait to take my son to the strip club....it'll teach him to get loaded BEFORE he gets there (drinks are WAY overpriced), and teach him the value of money (wait for the 2 for 1 dance). I feel this will make him more well rounded than the kids whose fathers didn't take their kids to the strip clubs. "Look son, those girls right there were either father figure-less, or were showed TOO MUCH love at a young age, making them easy pickings as long as you've got enough dope on ya". That's knowledge right there; they don't teach that in school. Plus, how else will he learn the difference between a good and bad boob job (you get what you pay for)? Some parents are just clueless....life can't be lived through rose colored glasses, might as well show them that as early on as possible. :rolleyes: This thread is too fun. Carry on.
 
....life can't be lived through rose colored glasses, might as well show them that as early on as possible. :rolleyes: This thread is too fun. Carry on.

The beauty of strip bars is that you don't need rose colored glasses. The lights already cast that hue!

Gotta love silicon valleys!!
 
Good for you Bill.

But couldn't the player have gotten a baby sitter for his 8 year old daughter. Sheesh!

I'm sure the father could of handled matters differently, tho it told me allot about this man as you read you'll find out I learned enough. He thanked me the first time I said something, but after that he didn't care, I did.
 
This topic was inspired by a recent post of someone who was gambling with his son on UFC fights.

In 2011, I think this type of activity is looked down upon by society in general. You might even get your kid taken away for "abuse" I am afraid to say.

But I hold the opposite viewpoint, and I have thought about this for a long while. I am convinced that pool is the best gambling activity to teach to children.

Kids can learn the art of setting the rules so that they could possibly have an advantage. They will learn to watch for people that are just out to hustle them. They will become expert communicators, and not get intimidated by "louder" counterparts.

They will learn to stand up for themselves when someone tries to cheat. They will learn valuable lessons about money.

They can use these tools in their lives every day. I know that when I was 18 and I went to get my car inspected, I didn't know enough to question what the mechanic said was wrong. Now that I have a pool hall education, I'll have a 2 hour discussion with the mechanic to try and get a better price, and knock off a few things that aren't really needed.

This type of stuff isn't covered in public schools. You don't learn much in schools.

Think about the advantage that a child has growing up if he knows how to manipulate people around him. He won't get ripped off by anyone.

I think this is a very important topic. Especially in today's world, when I think our children are way too soft, and easily manipulated.

I love my daughter more than life itself. I want her to find her own passions in life and pursue those with vigor. I doubt this will involve pool, but if it does - best of luck. Right now she's a yellow belt in Tae Kwon Doe (she's 7) and seems to really enjoy it.

Honestly, in the world we live in, if I can keep her from getting pregnant, and off the pipe and/or the pole by adulthood, I'll feel as though a huge hurdle has been conquered. That sounds like I'm joking, but the way things go these days, the family background you come from doesn't necessarily dictate the kind of person you will become. I've seen plenty of young women from nice, religious, educated families who turn into tragic figures due to horrible choices. Gambling at pool is the least of my worries as a 21st century parent.
 
I love my daughter more than life itself. I want her to find her own passions in life and pursue those with vigor. I doubt this will involve pool, but if it does - best of luck. Right now she's a yellow belt in Tae Kwon Doe (she's 7) and seems to really enjoy it.

Honestly, in the world we live in, if I can keep her from getting pregnant, and off the pipe and/or the pole by adulthood, I'll feel as though a huge hurdle has been conquered. That sounds like I'm joking, but the way things go these days, the family background you come from doesn't necessarily dictate the kind of person you will become. I've seen plenty of young women from nice, religious, educated families who turn into tragic figures due to horrible choices. Gambling at pool is the least of my worries as a 21st century parent.

I'll share with you thee most important thing I did as I raised my two daughters, its simple but its impact was more far reaching than I ever expected. I NEVER EVER asked or told my girls to do something without FOLLOWING THRU. Mind you I only did this once or twice a day when it was important and a building block of ones character, but I NEVER let anything I said slip by in these instances. Now, as they've lived their lives, got their degrees and have a very nice network of friends, what I've found out is they do the EXACT SAME THING with their friends, meaning. If they are talking or making plans or whatever and someone tells them something and they don't follow thru, they ASK WHY? Whats come of this is obvious, the bullshitters fall by the wayside Quickly. Others that do what they say, can and do develop into great friends. Without our word, we are not much as a person.
 
I just came home from a ring game, one of the players had his daughter there, she couldn't of been more than 8 yr old. The guys kept swearing and all, and I had to more than once tell em to ''shut up'', eventually that didn't help, they were concerned only about themselves, I left, too distracting and tooooooo wrong. I've raised two daughters and don't tolerate these actions very well.

WOw, I remember your daughters too. hard to believe they are grown already.
Congratulations!!
 
I SOOO wanted to bite my tongue on this subject but I just can't. Here is the problem: I have been around pool all of my life. I have known a ton of very expert gamblers. They all fell in love early in life with chasing the easy money. And they all die broke and we take up collections here to bury them. NONE of them have ever retired to a life of comfort and ease. Hell, they can't retire at all. No 401 K, no Social Security, nothing. They scrape their whole lives just to get by.

Teaching kids to love the easy money brought by gambling is just stupid. Teach them that when they mow the lawn they get $5 and when they wash the car they get $2 and when they dust the house they get $1. Teach them that there are rewards for honest work that allow them to purchase the things they want in life and that when they do not work they cannot purchase those things. Teach them to love the work-reward ratios, how to discover the best ones and how a great education can ease them into a life above the fray and free from economic worry. Teach them that some day they will be 60 years old and that they need to prepare for that moment from the time they are very young. Teach them that life is not an unconnected series of sporadic events but a process that can be planned and that even lofty goals can be achieved if properly set and followed.

Teach them that easy money is small money with no sticking power. Tell them to be the house, not the sucker at the tables.

My only son has excellent eye hand coordination. I saw it all the years in him growing up. I know that sons often look to their dad for their passions and adopt the passions of their fathers.

In growing up in the pool environment, I saw so many gamblers trying to get a bet down, using everything in their arsenal to get an edge. Often times, without even a barrel to pay if they lost. I've seen pool players sell drugs just to get gas money and yeah I've seen pool players dump. I've seen the easy money that comes with smart gambling but it really isn't as easy as it looks. While one player might make a thousand in a night, there will be hundreds of nights when he won't make a dollar. I've seen pool players distraught over the winnings at pool, go after the easy money in casinos, so street smart and all, they learned the latest and best system for gambling at dice and then poker. I saw the house raking in the dough, turning decent people into brokes and degenerates, making them bitter with the world.

I've won my share of money gambling at pool. I took a little jaunt at the casinos and did a little worse. But for the most part I worked and worked hard. I got lucky there too, making the right move every now and then and if you make enough of those right moves, one or more of them will pay off in the long run.

I saw pool friends living the easy life, living off of mom and dad, friends, girl friends and even strangers. They couldn't afford to pay for the roof over the heads and could ill afford a family. I walked a tightrope for most of my life, spending as much time in the pool room as I dared. Luckily I had an angel of a wife who put up with my passion and luckily, I didn't cost our house too much of our family's deserves. I saw myself winning and losing trying to make some of that easy money and that was my greatest fear. I feared that my son would know of my passion for pool and for gambling at pool, so I purposefully kept this knowledge from him until his later years.

I taught my son at a very early age: If you want lots of nice toys, you need to go to school and get a good education, so that when graduate from high school, you can go to a nice college and get a college degree, so that you can get a nice job that pays good money, so that you can buy lots of nice toys. It must have stuck because he received the education, got the good job, got the good pay and buys lots of nice toys. Now if only he can find a nice girl to marry and live happily ever after. :smile:

Now that he is grown, on his own, with all of his house in order, he has chosen to spend time with dad knocking those colored balls to and fro and if we make a dollar in the process it is but icing on the cake. And if he spends more on pool than he earns at pool, at least he has a good job and can afford to do so.

I fear for any son or daughter who is taught to gamble. Like Jerry, teach them how to be productive members of society and tell them that gambling is a waste of time and energy because it is.

I would hate to recount the times that I've seen gamblers that had to reduce their dignity to its lowest level, barking incessantly at their prospective customers, doing and saying whatever they had to get the bet down, lying with every word they uttered, negotiating like this next bet might be the last thing between them and a good night's sleep and a full belly and often was.

No, I didn't want to take that chance with my only son and I kept my passion secret for many decades. I couldn't afford to take that chance with him and am so very glad that I didn't. Today, he is a savvy business man, able to negotiate with most anyone. Sometimes, he pays a little more than his dad would but his money came a lot easier than his dad's did and he can afford it.

Both you guys hit the nail on the head.

Thank you.
 
I posted this in the other thread as well...

I thought I better clarify something as there have been several threads on this now...

I posted a story about "betting" with my 8-year-old. There is a COMPLETE difference between teaching a child what a "gamble" is and teaching a child how to "hustle"...the latter I would never do, as I don't believe in taking advantage of others and it's not something I would ever teach my child...period!

We "gamble" in everything we do...walking across the street is a "gamble" that we're not going to get hit by a passing car. We can minimize that "gamble" by looking both ways when we cross the street...that's what we teach our children (or at least it should be ;)). So, in a very far-reaching analogy, this is in a sense teaching our children how to minimize risk while "gambling". The same can be done on a pool table...if done properly.

Teaching a child that you should "never make a bet if you can't pay the debt", is teaching responsibility and taking ownership of one's own actions.

It can teach "risk - reward". Again, something that we as adults deal with on a daily basis!

Making a wager on a game of pool with a child is different than betting on a UFC fight (honest to gosh, no offense to the OP in the UFC thread - I thought it was a cute story). Betting on a UFC fight, neither party has any direct input as to the outcome. Betting on a game of pool, both parties have a "say" in what happens in order to achieve the "win". This can teach a child self-confidence and to believe in himself/herself.

The most important thing if you're going to use gambling, wagering, betting as tools to teach "life-lessons", that you need to approach it with the positive lessons, and not the negative ones...if done properly, I don't feel there is anything wrong with utilizing gambling as a teaching tool. Every child/adult has a different learning style (whether it's watching someone, reading a book or hearing it verbally)...the same applies to teaching...there can be different styles of teaching and gambling (again, if done with a "positive" end result in mind) is/can be just one more tool in teaching...

Jason
 
Have patience ..... 50yrs ago you couldn't steal an apple from an apple cart without getting smacked across your wrist with a cop's baton. Now, if you are in a store, the victim of an armed robbery in progress, and a cop comes in, sees it, and deploys his taser on the criminal to stop the threat, it gets in the newspapers that he used excessive police force, the criminal sues the department, the store, and perhaps even the victim. Naturally wins each claim.

The criminal is now living in Hawaii in the lap of luxury, rich as could be, writing a new book that will bound to be a best seller, while the cop is unemployed and blackballed from any hope of future work.

Have patience ... it will happen kids will get to gamble, and until they get real good at it we can pick their bones dry.

Hang in ... have patience, moral values in our society are falling apart as we speak. The world is going to hell in a hand basket. Have no fear, just some patience. We didn't become civil over night, we won't be able to f$%$ it up over night either, so don't worry, it will happen.
 
That really isn't the point, is it?

I guess it all depends upon what side of the fence you are on.

If you think that bringing your 8 year old daughter to the pool room to watch and learn about gambling is a good thing, then you're just on the opposite side of the fence where I stand.

Each to his own.
 
I guess it all depends upon what side of the fence you are on.

If you think that bringing your 8 year old daughter to the pool room to watch and learn about gambling is a good thing, then you're just on the opposite side of the fence where I stand.

Each to his own.

No I don't think it is right at all. However just because she is in a pool room doesn't give men the right right to act like total assholes either.
if there is a little girl there, after all, she is somebodys daughter.
The men are not the victims here, no matter what side of the fence one rides!!
 
I'm quite impressed with the OP. His posting history has been rather interesting, in his short time here.

This time.

I'be been watching his posts since his arrival here. It's been fun.
 
I thought I better clarify something as there have been several threads on this now...

I posted a story about "betting" with my 8-year-old. There is a COMPLETE difference between teaching a child what a "gamble" is and teaching a child how to "hustle"...the latter I would never do, as I don't believe in taking advantage of others and it's not something I would ever teach my child...period!

We "gamble" in everything we do...walking across the street is a "gamble" that we're not going to get hit by a passing car. We can minimize that "gamble" by looking both ways when we cross the street...that's what we teach our children (or at least it should be ;)). So, in a very far-reaching analogy, this is in a sense teaching our children how to minimize risk while "gambling". The same can be done on a pool table...if done properly.

Teaching a child that you should "never make a bet if you can't pay the debt", is teaching responsibility and taking ownership of one's own actions.

It can teach "risk - reward". Again, something that we as adults deal with on a daily basis!

Making a wager on a game of pool with a child is different than betting on a UFC fight (honest to gosh, no offense to the OP in the UFC thread - I thought it was a cute story). Betting on a UFC fight, neither party has any direct input as to the outcome. Betting on a game of pool, both parties have a "say" in what happens in order to achieve the "win". This can teach a child self-confidence and to believe in himself/herself.

The most important thing if you're going to use gambling, wagering, betting as tools to teach "life-lessons", that you need to approach it with the positive lessons, and not the negative ones...if done properly, I don't feel there is anything wrong with utilizing gambling as a teaching tool. Every child/adult has a different learning style (whether it's watching someone, reading a book or hearing it verbally)...the same applies to teaching...there can be different styles of teaching and gambling (again, if done with a "positive" end result in mind) is/can be just one more tool in teaching...

Jason

While your teaching your children these valuable lessons about gambling, tell them the most important thing in life is, PIE IN THE SKY. Why work when you can gamble responsibly? You must believe then that giving your children heroin is a good idea. Cocaine, Mushrooms, alcohol, all should be on your list also. Risk/rewards for 6-7 year olds? Here's some heroin, now, I prefer to inhale it darling, but if you inject it, please be responsible and use clean needles. If you don't want to inhale it or inject it, then smoking is always a good method. Please honey, be careful with your matches.
Some people can rationalize anything. I think a visit from CPS and a short term in prison should be in your future. :mad::mad:
 
A little food for thought!!!
You just cant beat a education!!!
Question:
What is the average income for young adults?

Response:
For young adults ages 25–34 who worked full time (35 or more hours per week) throughout a full year (50 or more weeks of employment), higher educational attainment was associated with higher median earnings. This pattern of higher median earnings corresponding with higher levels of educational attainment was consistent for each year examined between 1995 and 2009. For example, young adults with a bachelor's degree consistently had higher median earnings than those with less education.

In 2009, the median of the earnings for young adults with a bachelor's degree was $45,000, while the median was $21,000 for those without a high school diploma or its equivalent, $30,000 for those with a high school diploma or its equivalent, and $36,000 for those with an associate's degree. In other words, young adults with a bachelor's degree earned more than twice as much as those without a high school diploma or its equivalent in 2009 (i.e., 114 percent more), 50 percent more than young adult high school completers, and 25 percent more than young adults with an associate's degree. In 2009, the median of the earnings of young adults with a master's degree or higher was $60,000, some 33 percent more than the median for young adults with a bachelor's degree.

Earnings differences were also observed by sex. In 2009, the median of the earnings for young adult males was higher than the median for young adult females at every education level. For example, in 2009, young adult males with a bachelor's degree earned $51,000, while their female counterparts earned $40,100.

SOURCE: U.S. Department of Education, National Center for Education Statistics. (2011). The Condition of Education 2011 (NCES 2011–033), Indicator 17.

Median annual earnings of full-time, full-year wage and salary workers ages 25–34, by educational attainment and sex: Selected years, 1980–2009

[In constant 2009 dollars]
Year All education levels High school diploma or equivalent Bachelor's degree
Male
1980 $45,000 $44,000 —
1985 43,900 39,900 —
1990 41,000 36,100 —
1995 38,000 33,800 49,300
2000 41,100 36,100 56,100
2005 38,400 33,000 49,400
2009 40,000 32,900 51,000
Female
1980 $31,200 $28,600 —
1985 31,900 27,900 —
1990 32,000 26,300 —
1995 31,000 24,800 39,400
2000 33,600 26,200 43,600
2005 33,000 26,400 41,700
2009 35,000 25,000 40,100

— Not available.

SOURCE: U.S. Department of Education, National Center for Education Statistics. (2011). The Condition of Education 2011 (NCES 2011–033), Table A-17-1.

Related Tables and Figures: (Listed by Release Date)

2011, Digest of Education Statistics 2010, Table 391. Median annual earnings of year-round, full-time workers 25 years old and over, by highest level of educational attainment and sex: 1990 through 2009
2011, Digest of Education Statistics 2010, Table 392. Distribution of earnings and median earnings of persons 25 years old and over, by highest level of educational attainment and sex: 2009

Other Resources: (Listed by Release Date)

2011, Baccalaureate and Beyond Longitudinal Study (B&B) examines students’ education and work experiences after they complete a bachelor’s degree, with a special emphasis on the experiences of new elementary and secondary teachers.
2010, Current Population Survey (CPS) is a household survey conducted by the Bureau of the Census for the Bureau of Labor Statistics providing information about employment, unemployment, and other characteristics of the civilian noninstitutionalized population.
 
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I see that you missed the points I was trying to make...sorry to see that...

While your teaching your children these valuable lessons about gambling, tell them the most important thing in life is, PIE IN THE SKY. Why work when you can gamble responsibly? You must believe then that giving your children heroin is a good idea. Cocaine, Mushrooms, alcohol, all should be on your list also. Risk/rewards for 6-7 year olds? Here's some heroin, now, I prefer to inhale it darling, but if you inject it, please be responsible and use clean needles. If you don't want to inhale it or inject it, then smoking is always a good method. Please honey, be careful with your matches.
Some people can rationalize anything. I think a visit from CPS and a short term in prison should be in your future. :mad::mad:
 
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're still misunderstanding...

I won't teach my son "to" gamble...rather I choose to teach him "about" the negative/positive consequences involved in gambling. I would prefer the lesson come from me rather than Harry Hussler at some point later in life.

I won't teach my son "to" do drugs...rather I choose to teach him "about" the negative consequences involved with doing drugs. I would prefer the lesson come from me rather than Peter Pusher when he starts hanging out with friends without adult supervision.

I won't teach my son "to" have sex...rather I choose to teach him "about" the negative consequences which can and do arise from sexual relations. I would prefer the lesson come from me rather than Donnie Dumass on the school playground.

I hope this helped you to understand where I was coming from as your comment regarding CPS and prison were way out of line...

Thanks,

Jason

I dont accept straw arguments as valid. Justifications, rationalizations are not valid points.
 
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're still misunderstanding...

I won't teach my son "to" gamble...rather I choose to teach him "about" the negative/positive consequences involved in gambling. I would prefer the lesson come from me rather than Harry Hussler at some point later in life.

I won't teach my son "to" do drugs...rather I choose to teach him "about" the negative consequences involved with doing drugs. I would prefer the lesson come from me rather than Peter Pusher when he starts hanging out with friends without adult supervision.

I won't teach my son "to" have sex...rather I choose to teach him "about" the negative consequences which can and do arise from sexual relations. I would prefer the lesson come from me rather than Donnie Dumass on the school playground.

I hope this helped you to understand where I was coming from as your comment regarding CPS and prison were way out of line...

Thanks,

Jason

Don't worry, that kybill is the one with the problem, not you. He's not welcome here if he's going to act like that.

You certainly haven't done anything wrong.
 
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