I don't frequent the forums any more, but when I get a moment now & then, I skim through the cue maker sections to see if anything interesting is going on. I'll offer my thoughts on this subject.
First of all, every cue maker who has invested time & money into machinery and a learning curve, is not getting paid anywhere near what his talents are worth. You claim that very few cues are worth the thousands they cost, but have you thought to ask what the builder paid himself per hour to build that cue? You might be very surprised to learn that many, many builders make far less than minimum wage rates. I did the math once just to satisfy my curiosity and was appalled to learn I was clearing about $2/hr. Would you work for $2/hour? Yet you'll complain about how much cues cost. IMO, any cuemaker who charges low prices to be "fair" is a fool, being fair to everybody but himself. This is one major factor in why I don't build much anymore. It simply isn't worth it. When i'm old & grey & nothing else to do, I may build cues seriously again.
As for what makes one cue different from another, it's already been stated several times. For instance, Danny makes a cue with an .850" joint, 1.1" "A" joint, & compound taper in the butt, with a shaft taper that begins it's curve 18" out from joint, curving into a 13mm ferrule made of high grade melamine on a 3/8" tenon. The joint pin is 3/8 big pin. He buys only the finest woods, and uses only the best of what he buys, choosing for tone, stability, and aesthetics. His cues have a distinctive hit & feel that is very popular with players, and therefore his cues are in high demand & with that comes high prices.
Davey's cue has a .830" joint, .995" "A" joint, straight tapered butt, 5/16 joint pin, and a shaft taper that is 13mm for 15" from tip before curving up to the joint. His ferrule is juma or some other economy plastic & it's installed onto a 5/16-14 tenon that is cut using a die. He shops for good deals on wood, and uses everything he buys so to minimize his losses. He has been building cues for 30 years & has it down to a science, but yet he can't give his cues away because nobody wants one. Could he change things up or even be a little less cheap on his builds? Yes, but he doesn't. He's a creature of habit. Rather than change his methods or spend the money that it costs to get good quality materials, he'll instead just ***** & moan about the market being driven only by name. And I'm using the dimensions as example, not comparing. Just pointing out how drastically different cues can be and still be relatively the same if you don't know any better.
And how well does Davey match up to Danny on the table? Is Danny running out while Davey just racks? Could it possibly be that Danny is a better cue maker because he's a better player? In the real word, not every man is created equal. Face it, some men are born better, while others work to be better, but in any case some are simply better. No different with cue makers. Simple facts of life. Any skilled machine operator can build a structurally sound cue. It's pointless if he doesn't understand what that cue is supposed to do or how it should feel. The devil is in the details and you must know how to manipulate things to alter said details. Otherwise you are a cookie cutter cue maker complaining about not being able to sell cues.
I'm not going to try changing your mind about how you feel regarding cues. Either you play well enough to understand the subtleties or you do not. It shouldn't matter to you, as a consumer, why one cue plays better than another. What should matter is WHICH cue plays best for you, and are you willing to pay the price to obtain it? If you aren't good enough to know the difference, then yeah, shop by price because a great cue would do you no justice, anyway. Hey, I can't tell the difference between my GMC pick-up truck & my daughter's Honda Civic. I drive both within the speed limit & they both get me there. If I wanna haul something, I take the truck. If I wanna cheap out on gas, I take her car. No matter to me. If you take that approach with your pool game, then cues don't matter so long as they "get you there". If you are a competitive player in tune with the finer aspects of spin, control, feel, speed, power, etc., then yes every cue is different & you'll be best off with one that fits you.
I apologize if I offended anybody. I'm not pointing fingers or ridiculing anybody, just stating my opinion. One thing I have noticed with cue makers is that they are incredibly stubborn & narcissistic. Many wouldn't admit they are wrong if it was proven without any shadow of doubt. They believe in themselves to a fault. Granted, you gotta be tough in order to be in this business. Let's face it, our target market is pool players. Need more be said? However, if a builder is unable to morph & adapt with an open mind, he's not going to grow. I am a cue maker & am subject to everything I have said about cue makers. I am not saying all of this from a seat of righteousness. I understand cue makers' faults because I am a cue maker & have those faults. It's an observation from the inside. Cues differ greatly in playability from one builder to another. Hell, cues differ greatly in playability from the same maker. The question really isn't what makes them different. It's more of, are you good enough to notice the difference?