When your family gives you a cheap cue you dont want, THEN WANTS IT BACK!

michael4

michael4

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I was going to create another thread about receiving a (well used) cue as a gift from family or friends who dont play pool, and dont know the difference between a nice cue and a broom handle.......

I received this cue from my wife's aunt. I guess it belonged to her husband who has passed away.......I kept it in the garage for about a year, out of respect, then during aggressive spring cleaning, I tossed it in the trash (along with a lot of other stuff I knew I would never use).

That would have been the end of the thread, UNTIL THIS WEEK.

A relative of my wife is visiting us from out of town.....turns out he is the son of the man who passes away (owner of cue), but yet was adopted and never met his dad, and has little to remember him by.....

My wife says the other day "Remember that cue my aunt gave you, why dont you give it to him (the son) so he has something to remember about his father!, it would mean so much to him!"

Me (stalling)......... "I will look for it"...... :sorry:

Not sure what to do now. I guess being honest is the best policy, but I happen to have a similar old cue I could give him, he would never know the difference :grin-devilish::grin-devilish:
 

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Just tell it like it is and offer the other cue. If you don't you will be "looking for it" forever!
 
Do it but do not ever tell anyone.

If you had kept it and it was worth $$$......

I still would do it.
 
I feel your dilemma! A son generally don't want junky stuff to remember their dad by anyway. I remember my dad taking some of my gandpa's old rusty tools and giving them to me. They still sit in a storage locker, meaningless but I don't have the heart to toss them.

Photos, things they made themselves, letters, prizes, heirlooms, items they treasured, representative of memories. These are the kinds of things I want to remember my dad by. My favorite thing is a coin dad molded into a photo frame, with his picture in it, from World War Two. The other thing is a personalized horseshoe he got from Hopalong Cassidy's office demolition, gave it to me as a child. A photo of his Harley from WWII he pieced together as a mechanic. I wish I had his old Marlin rifle that he thought was "better than a Winchester'. I have my wife's great grandgather's Winchester - now that's cool...

I would just tell her the truth - it was a cheap cue from K Mart that was damaged, not much to be sentimental over. Maybe they can find some stuff he would really like to have.
 
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I like the "offer another cue as the real cue". If no one will ever know what's the harm.
If the idea is so that it's a memory, a keepsake, then it's not so much the cue, but the
symbol and what the cue would represent.

Tell her you don't have the case, it was a mess, and you did clean up the cue, but you'll
be happy to part with it if it will be a comfort to his son.

No one ever has to know and it will provide what may be a needed keepsake for the son.
 
Be honest. If your concern is that you don't want to hurt the guy's feelings for not having more sentimental attachment to his dad's cue you can always feign some regret. "I remember now that I threw it away during spring cleaning, I knew it wasn't worth a lot and I already had a cue that fits me perfect and I ended up being a bit over zealous in my clean out out due to my frustration with all the clutter and it is one of several things that I regret getting rid of."

Or, if you donated it to goodwill or somewhere (and if his dad had really liked pool), "I remember donating it to xyz because I knew that I have so many cues that it would never get played with and I am pretty sure your dad would have wanted to see someone get use out of it instead of it sitting in the closet so out of respect for him I wanted to make sure that it would go somewhere where it would get used and enjoyed."

The above suggestions are based on the assumption that you wife mentioned the cue idea in front of this guy and so he knows about the cue, and you dilemma is in what to tell the guy. If it was just a private conversation between you and you wife and the guy doesn't even know about the cue then I can't even understand the reason for the question or post because what to do is beyond easy and obvious. Just tell her the truth. "It was one of the things that got the cut in the last spring cleaning. It wasn't worth anything, was in bad condition, would never get used, and I threw it away."
 
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"As I feared, it was in one of the storage boxes that was thrown out last year."
 
You're screwed.

The kid is going take an interest in pool, 'cuz Pops played.
He'll join AZB, stumble on this old thread, and ...


Burn this thread. Now!
 
the guy didnt ask for it. your wife did. just tell her and tell her not to mention the cue. then its over.

once you start the lies they come back to haunt you.
 
You're not lying by saying..." I'm not sure where that cue is, but he loved pool enough to have his own and I'd like you to have your own."

Encourage him to play and practice and come back for a game or two.

Done.
 
You werent lying when you said you wife speaks first...damn!

I agree with honesty.

" that sh!t ass stick is gone and get out of my house!!!
 
When I was a kid we would visit my Aunt in Sedona, AZ. She would tell me after a monsoon, the rain would wash down arrowheads, rocks and Indian pottery pieces in the run off behind her house. I "found" some really great stuff.

I know the intent was good, but I'm still salty.
 
TATE said:
I feel your dilemma! A son generally don't want junky stuff to remember their dad by anyway. I remember my dad taking some of my gandpa's old rusty tools and giving them to me. They still sit in a storage locker, meaningless but I don't have the heart to toss them.

Photos, things they made themselves, letters, prizes, heirlooms, items they treasured, representative of memories. These are the kinds of things I want to remember my dad by. My favorite thing is a coin dad molded into a photo frame, with his picture in it, from World War Two. The other thing is a personalized horseshoe he got from Hopalong Cassidy's office demolition, gave it to me as a child. A photo of his Harley from WWII he pieced together as a mechanic. I wish I had his old Marlin rifle that he thought was "better than a Winchester'. I have my wife's great grandgather's Winchester - now that's cool...

I would just tell her the truth - it was a cheap cue from K Mart that was damaged, not much to be sentimental over. Maybe they can find some stuff he would really like to have.
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I like this post.
 
I would not give them another cue. You never know - the aunt might remember the real one for some strange reason. If you have to lie, I would go the "donation" route. Else I'd just tell the truth, which is probably the best anyway. Little lies can complicate things more than honesty.
 
Black-Balled said:
You werent lying when you said you wife speaks first...damn!

I agree with honesty.

" that sh!t ass stick is gone and get out of my house!!!
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This could be a little harsh or right on the money depending on the person I guess :rotflmao1::rotflmao1:

Im sure you can always come up with a reason you had to toss it to stick to the honesty theme, joint was effed up and irreparable or something along those lines.

After reading some of these replies it no longer surprises me that there is also a thread titled "Murder at the pool hall" :eek::eek::eek::eek:
 
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Simple problem
Thou shall not bear false witness
Exodus 20

Lying is wrong
 
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