I agree with the OP's basic premise....
To take it a step further, whether women or other protected groups, I adamantly dislike the fact that people want to be equal to a point.....they like to be "equal" when it benefits them, but they prefer to be women or another group when there is an advantage....
Just sayin...
For the record, we have a few ladies on our pool team, and they are always seen and treated just like the guys......tons of great female players in the Dallas area that often like to put me in the losers bracket