Wifes leaving me,Should I let her take Her cue?

my 2 Cents..

str8shooter said:
Stumped on this one:confused:.I made my soon to be x wife of 9 years a very nice custom cue a 8 years back and now shes leaving me.Should I let her have it?Suggestions ..thoughts.
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Does she use it? If your leaning toward answering no or not really, then YES take it back. (but be prepared for a fight!)

If she uses it & enjoys it, then No.

3rd option: suggest a trade for another item of your she may want from you! (Win/Win)

Good Luck!
 
Just let her keep it...the courts will anyways. It was a GIFT...which means you can't take it, legally. You go after something petty like this, and as a woman, I can guarantee that she will take it to a level that you don't wanna even deal with.
 
Would you ask Annie Oakley for her gun?

Robin Hood for his bow?

Surgeon for his knife/scalpel?

Gambler for his rabbits foot?

Kd
 
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dnschmidt said:
This is going to get ugly. All divorces get ugly. If you think this cue is the worst part of the screwing over that's going to happen to you take off the rose colored glasses. Why do all woman want to get married? Because once they do they get to screw you over in the divorce. After she gets your car this cue is going to be the last thing you worry about.
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Easily one of the most ignorant statements I have seen of late. There are far more single moms out there struggling, because their dear sweet husbands turned into self-absorbed, and nasty ex-partners, and left them with nothing but the kids...and dodge child support. You sound like a misogynist.
 
Let it Ride

Sorry to hear about your pending divorce. If it is any comfort, I got divorced after 12yrs of marriage.

Let her keep the cue. That cue will always make her think of good times w/you as it stands now. If you fight over it,... it becomes a tarnished memory of your time together.

You need time,.... TRUST ME on this. In awhile you'll be dating a nice gal you met and your Ex will be enshrined to "Ex-hood" In this light Sean's post earlier is sound advice.
TIME does indeed heal all wounds.
 
ridewiththewind said:
Just let her keep it...the courts will anyways. It was a GIFT...which means you can't take it, legally. You go after something petty like this, and as a woman, I can guarantee that she will take it to a level that you don't wanna even deal with.
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Been there twice . Take care .
 
ridewiththewind said:
Easily one of the most ignorant statements I have seen of late. There are far more single moms out there struggling, because their dear sweet husbands turned into self-absorbed, and nasty ex-partners, and left them with nothing but the kids...and dodge child support. You sound like a misogynist.
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I'm a stay at home dad.I'm absorbed in my kids.The hardest part is knowing she'll have them half the year,not a cue or any amount of money is in comparison.
 
Jim Baxter said:
Been there twice . Take care .
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Me too. I was extremely amicable the first go round...and got screwed. Tried to be nice the second go round too...but he decided he wanted it all to go his way. When he broke into the house and took everything he wanted...including the kids' snowboards, after I had been nice, started calling me at 2 and 3 in the morning drunk, filed a fake suicide call (he worked as a dispatcher for SDCSD), and called CPS on me (unfounded)...the gauntlet was thrown down. He vowed he would see me in the gutter...all because I found out he was cheating with his superior (Navy) and confronted him about it.

Like I said, I didn't get nasty until all the above happened, and a lot more. The man terrorized us. Do I miss him...not at all.
 
ridewiththewind said:
Just let her keep it...the courts will anyways. It was a GIFT...which means you can't take it, legally. You go after something petty like this, and as a woman, I can guarantee that she will take it to a level that you don't wanna even deal with.
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Girl power.I guess I should back off.
 
str8shooter said:
Stumped on this one:confused:.I made my soon to be x wife of 9 years a very nice custom cue a 8 years back and now shes leaving me.Should I let her have it?Suggestions ..thoughts.
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Don't be petty, do you really want the cue? 5 years from now after all the hurt and crap has passed do you want to have a reminder of how spiteful you were?
 
str8shooter said:
I'm a stay at home dad.I'm absorbed in my kids.The hardest part is knowing she'll have them half the year,not a cue or any amount of money is in comparison.
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You really need to talk to a lawyer about how custody and visitation works before jumping to conclusions. It's not nearly as cut and dried as it may appear. Odds are pretty good that since you have been the primary caregiver, you may well retain primary physical custody and child support. Get some facts first, before listening to all this 'advice'.
 
Nine ... corner said:
Most everyone has the same answer but this one merits being highlighted. Good one Cuebuddy. :thumbup:
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Thanks N...c
Although I have never been through a devorce I have watched many and they are cheaper, faster and you will live longer if you just work together... Just one more time:wink:
 
str8shooter said:
Girl power.I guess I should back off.
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Not 'girl power'. Gifts are not considered part of community property...whether the husband or the wife received the gift(s) does not matter. Also, what each party carried into the marriage (property owned prior to the marriage) does not factor into community property either. My ex-a$$hole tried to take a guitar that my parents had given me for my 12th Christmas...was excluded as community property, (talk about petty). Tried to make the courts make me solely responsible for the house...except, it was his house before we got married, my name wasn't even on the mortgage...in fact, he co-owned it with a previous girlfriend. What neither I nor the courts were aware of at the time was that he had already defaulted on the house. He then filed for bankruptcy, and had his witch forge my signature, and then a false address that I allegedly lived at in San Diego....so the 1099's all got sent there...problem is, I have never lived anywhere close to San Diego, since I lived in Oak Harbor, WA. I was solely supporting the household at the time...because he was spending all his money taking his witch on vacations to Vegas. Stuck me with a $2200 IRS tax bill, which I paid.

The sad part is...no one in the house saw it coming. Things had been good when he left, and appeared good until I figured out what was really going on. Screwed the kids up bad, as he disowned both and refused to send child support.

Yeah...it's always the women....NOT!
 
get a lawyer
let her have the cue
just like the ring i dont believe you can get it back
good bye good riddance
 
Let her keep the cue. The best thing I ever did was get divorced from first wife!!!! She got the house and everything that goes with it, I got my clothes, my tools, and coffee pot, it was still a very good deal.:grin:
 
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