Don't take anything for granted....

SC02GTP

SC02GTP

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Hello

Let me begin by saying this is not the right post for this thread, but, is as important as anything I have read thus far on AZ.

I just wanted to remind everyone that reads this to take time to tell the ones that are closest to you that you love them. You never know when you will not have that chance to do so. Also, be good to others that you deal with and try to be more civil in dealings. Remember that this is just a sport/hobby and in the grand scheme of life, this means little to nothing. Money is not the end all be all, however, our relations are.

I am writing this because I have had a lot of time recently to reflect. My dad has been sick since last memorial day. He might have three or four days left before he enters eternal rest. He has suffered greatly and so has my family, especialy my mother. She has not left his side and has remained strong this past year for my dad and for the entire family.

This has been a long and painful trip for all involved on an emotional and financial level. I am not looking for sympathy or money here. Just that each and every one of you refuse to take the important things in life for granted, like family and friends. These things are truely precious and once they are gone, it is too late. In closing, the one single positive thing that came out of all this was the fact that the doctors gave me the chance to say a lot of things to my father that needed to be said, I was truely lucky and blessed here. God gave me the break and a spot.

Thanks
Tom
 
Sorry to hear about your father, sending prayers to you and yours and your so right about keeping what is important into perspective. :)
 
Thanks

Thanks you for your thoughts and prayers. I just thought this thread might serve as a reminder that not all things revolve around money. I also hope that this will in some small way improve your quality of life and those around you. I have always felt this way ,but, like so many of us, get caught up in work, prodjects, looking for the next cue to buy/sell, and a lot of other things. There is a time and place with everything, but, you have nothing without ballance.
 
Tom - it is nice of you to share your thoughts and learning experience. You are absolutely right that in the end pool, money, fame etc .... is nothing. Especailly if one is not in the top bracket anyway.

One thing my Grandpa (who is no longer with me) told me was 'God has given the right to choose your friends, he hasn't given you the right to choose relatives - so honor that!'.

You know, man may have mastered 'how to stop birth', but he will never be able to stop that last part of journey.

May the lord bestow all the strength you and your family need during this time.
 
Truer words could not have been spoken re the grand scheme of things.
I said a prayer for you and your family in your time of need.
 
I'm sorry your family is going through this. We get busy. We forget what's really imortant. Thanks for having the strength and courage to remind us about what is important.

The best to you, your family-and especially your mother-keep any eye on her-she's been carrying a lot of weight.
 
Never the wrong place to say the things that are truely important in life. Never got to say goodbye to my Father. I'm sure the moderators will understand and approve.

Lyn
 
SC02GTP said:
Hello

Let me begin by saying this is not the right post for this thread, but, is as important as anything I have read thus far on AZ.

I just wanted to remind everyone that reads this to take time to tell the ones that are closest to you that you love them. You never know when you will not have that chance to do so. Also, be good to others that you deal with and try to be more civil in dealings. Remember that this is just a sport/hobby and in the grand scheme of life, this means little to nothing. Money is not the end all be all, however, our relations are.

I am writing this because I have had a lot of time recently to reflect. My dad has been sick since last memorial day. He might have three or four days left before he enters eternal rest. He has suffered greatly and so has my family, especialy my mother. She has not left his side and has remained strong this past year for my dad and for the entire family.

This has been a long and painful trip for all involved on an emotional and financial level. I am not looking for sympathy or money here. Just that each and every one of you refuse to take the important things in life for granted, like family and friends. These things are truely precious and once they are gone, it is too late. In closing, the one single positive thing that came out of all this was the fact that the doctors gave me the chance to say a lot of things to my father that needed to be said, I was truely lucky and blessed here. God gave me the break and a spot.

Thanks
Tom
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Nice post Tom. I know how you are feeling right now. My older sister found out last June that she has stage 4 lung cancer. The cancer has spread to her brain and also to her other lung. Its has been very hard on my immediate family especially how close were are. I try to see her every week and at least call her every day. The doctors gave here 6 months to a year to live. So I find myself reflecting every day about life in general.
 
This is very true. I Lost My Father in November, after being in and out of hospitals for years. He would always come back home and be as ornery as ever. This last time he didn't come back. He went to hospice instead. We were all with him when he passed. I am happy that he was at our wedding 6 weeks before he died. All his brothers and sisters saw him for the last time. I am crying as I type this - I miss him a lot.
 
All.......

It is a comfort to know that so many feel the same way. Everyone must deal with the natural progression of life in their own way. It is important that we realize we are not alone in this. I for one have been touched with all of the responce to this thread. I do with all with ailing/passed family closure and peace. I know for a fact, more certain than anything, that my dad would not want this for himself or his family. And that this is the time to move on. In his eyes, family came first and he worried about the rest when he got around to it.
 
You and your family are in my prayers. So many do not realize these words of wisdom until it is too late, blessings to you all.
 
I am sorry to hear about your father, I wish you the best with everything to come. I don't know the pain you are going through but I feel for you. My dad is my best friend, my pool travelling buddy, gambling partner and on rare occasion, stakehorse. We argue back and forth about everything but I dread the day that I have to deal with what you are dealing with right now.

Fortunately, it sounds like you got the opportunity to tell him how you feel and I am sure that was comforting for both of you. Take care and make the best of the time you have.

Daniel
 
update

On 1/9/11, 2:00 PM EDST, my father passed into the Kingdon of Heaven.

He was surounded by family that loved him, and was at peace. He did not feel any pain and slipped quietly.

I was fortunate and blessed to have been give this last weekend to spend time with him. Please, do not feel sorry for me, this is the best thing that could have been the outcome. Everything that he held of importance was present at this time of passing, family, family, and family.

I don't have any regrets about today. He is at peace and so am I. We always had a strong relationship, not always a good one growing up LOL, and we often talked about these things in life. We had open and honest communication always.

If I had just one wish to come true, it would be for everyone to take time today to tell the ones closest to you that they are special and make life worth living. None of us knows how much time we have on earth.

Thanks
Tom
 
SC02GTP said:
On 1/9/11, 2:00 PM EDST, my father passed into the Kingdon of Heaven.

He was surounded by family that loved him, and was at peace. He did not feel any pain and slipped quietly.

I was fortunate and blessed to have been give this last weekend to spend time with him. Please, do not feel sorry for me, this is the best thing that could have been the outcome. Everything that he held of importance was present at this time of passing, family, family, and family.

I don't have any regrets about today. He is at peace and so am I. We always had a strong relationship, not always a good one growing up LOL, and we often talked about these things in life. We had open and honest communication always.

If I had just one wish to come true, it would be for everyone to take time today to tell the ones closest to you that they are special and make life worth living. None of us knows how much time we have on earth.

Thanks
Tom
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Thank you sharing these private moments with us for the past week. You have said a lot of very important and moving words for us to reflect on, because you are going through a tough time.

I am very sorry for your loss but glad he is not suffering anymore. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your Mom, and your family.

Sincerely,
Melinda
 
Tom,

My prayers go out for you and your family. Your father was a lucky man to have had a son who is as caring as you are. It is good that he is at rest with God and that you are at peace with it all now. I have witnessed my father (88) and mother (86) going downhill at a pace faster than I am comfortable with here in the past several months. I always tell them on each and every visit now how I love them and remind them what a great job of parenting they did for me and my siblings. My dad was my biggest influence on most every hobby/sport I got into. He was the first person I ever shot pool with. If not for him I'm not sure if I ever would've picked a cue stick up. He's more than just a father to me, and I can only hope that when I lose him, I can handle it as well as you have. Thanks for sharing!!!

Tony
 
Many Thanks

Many thanks for the kind wishes and all of the prayers. I firmly believe that you need to tell you parents that you truely appreciate all they have done for you in life.

Dad was liked and respected by all he met. He harldy knew a stanger and would go out of his way to help his kids, freinds, and neighbors. He truely looked out for us and was all ways interested in what we were doing. He gave his time to the grandkids and they were treated (better in some cases) than his own kids. He would cherish time at Thanksgiving and Christmas because he knew all of his kids would be home. He was my life teacher and I strive to live up to his standards and morals on a daily basis. I was lucky to have him for the time I did. Lord knows I could have turned out much worse lol.

Thanks Again
Tom
 
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