PLEASE help with a poor sport (wife)

My thoughts

I would spot her whatever makes her happy.
Ball in hand on every shot.
Freeze the Cue ball to the object ball whenever she wants.
Her fouls don't count.
I would still probably win... if I thought she wanted me to.
And smile the whole time.
Nick :)
 
Listen to Sixpack and PT109. Both are absolutely right. It's got to be more about having fun with you than a competition. And, if you ever do compete you should both be on the same team.

Royce
 
9andout said:
^^^^^^I am still cracking up at this one!
Ruthless!
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It has worked very well with my wife. Its been almost 9 years and she barely wins each time we go out. I even make her rack the balls when she loses. She can kick and hit most of the balls she is kicking at...if i dont leave her tied up too bad on a safe shot. She has ran 4 balls in 9 ball a few times and can consistently run 3.

I even put a 3 pack on her not long ago and she had a smile on her face the whole time. After I broke dry on the 4th rack she told me I had gotten better since the last time we had played. I also compliment her when we play and tell her when she makes a good shot. I guess it all boils down to people being wired different.
 
Buy her a professional pool lesson for Xmas!

Scott Lee
http://poolknowledge.com

9andout said:
Ok. I've posted on here b4 about dumping to the wife. But here's the problem...
My wife will actually watch Mosconi, World Cup and just about any other pool PPV I buy. Or You Tube stuff. And enjoy / comment correctly on it.
Ok that's a plus right?
I asked for a race to 21 (9 ball) for my birthday. (In AUGUST!!!! mind you)
After tonight it is 15 - 8 me. (not playing too much...(the race)
She gets ball in hand at the beginning of every turn at the table except on the 9.
Of course tonight there was drinking involved....BUT She ended up actually crying about losing tonight. And complaining a lot on the sober nights. WTF?
Also, she is a self described "perfectionist" at work, house etc.....
I told her that's a great reason to practice more and try to "perfect" your pool game. Pool is for "perfectionist's" I think. (talked about this when not drinking at all)

Any advice? She obviously likes pool. (watching) playing, sort of....
and has the basics down pat. I call her "The Queen of Cuts
She goes to SBE every year. Even went to a local tournament to watch friends play with me. She knows more about the Pro Pool scene than any guy outside of AZ I think.
Should I really just "dump like a pro" COM stlye?
Confused because I think I might have a diamond in the rough here. At least for fun playing.
Pretty strange situation I think.......Thoughts..............???????
Way past bed time on the East Coast. Check back tomorrow. Thanks.
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Hello & good Luck... maybe what she needs is some time with an outside coach. It's an age old scenario, that a man shouldn't teach his wife to drive, maybe the same goes for Pool (in your case).

If she gets that upset over losing, she has a first class streak of "competitor" in her. When she learns to understand, that emotions create havoc in one's performance, maybe she'll begin to curtail that behavior & put a damper on it in the future.

There are hundreds, if not more, YouTube lessons that she can learn by, sans your company. That will increase her skill & you can assist her to incorporate that into her application of the new knowledge. That will be fun to do & watch, plus you'll benefit from being the helpmate instead of the competition.
 
yep, my hobbies and hers

phil dade said:
I have been married to my wife since1978. I have always encouraged her hobbies and interests. Stuff women like, ceramics, crafts, making jewelry, etc. Additionally, I have encouraged her interaction with girl friends, ie; going to spas etc.

I do not understand guys that get wives involved in their hobbies. You can not possibly enjoy playing with her if you are so much better.

I have never:

1. Taken my wife golfing
2. Taken her to the skeet/trap club.
3. Taken her to the sporting clays club
4. Taken her to the rifle/pistol range
5. Taken her a around pool rooms
6. Taken her to the Poker Room- we have local poker gambling rooms.
7. Taken her to the cigar club, ( I can't go either due to health now)

There are certain bars/restaurants I avoid going to together. I look at it as, what possible good can come out of this?

Good luck
Phil
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I always tried to keep my own hobbies and space and let my wife have hers. Shooting pool, fishing, hunting, those weren't her things anyway. I tried to encourage her to take up womanly hobbies like cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, the child rearing, cleaning the fish and game I brought home, . . . she didn't really have time for pool anyway! Been about ten or fifteen years since I have seen her, pretty sure we aren't married anymore.

Hu
 
My wife just said, ' I don't want your penis on my arm'.

Coures, she was talking to the dog, but I got concerned.
 
IMO

only play with her using practice drills and teaching

Pair her up with players close to her level but not above. Let her build her confidence and skills. It's obvious she doesn't like to lose. But who does.

For me Id rather play better players I play harder and learn by watching.

When I play players that I know are half as good I dont play to my ability unless they start talking shit then I'll play my game.
 
Op please take this with a grain of sand as u dont know YOU or your old lady. I must say though the point at which you made your first ( and worst ) mistake was when u asked. My opinion is antiquated no doubt but it works for me and always has. Be upfront and honest in expectations and ya really cant go wrong. Its not so bad, many, many women can and do embrace this approach. Take this as you will.
 
9andout said:
Ok. I've posted on here b4 about dumping to the wife. But here's the problem...
My wife will actually watch Mosconi, World Cup and just about any other pool PPV I buy. Or You Tube stuff. And enjoy / comment correctly on it.
Ok that's a plus right?
I asked for a race to 21 (9 ball) for my birthday. (In AUGUST!!!! mind you)
After tonight it is 15 - 8 me. (not playing too much...(the race)
She gets ball in hand at the beginning of every turn at the table except on the 9.
Of course tonight there was drinking involved....BUT She ended up actually crying about losing tonight. And complaining a lot on the sober nights. WTF?
Also, she is a self described "perfectionist" at work, house etc.....
I told her that's a great reason to practice more and try to "perfect" your pool game. Pool is for "perfectionist's" I think. (talked about this when not drinking at all)

Any advice? She obviously likes pool. (watching) playing, sort of....
and has the basics down pat. I call her "The Queen of Cuts
She goes to SBE every year. Even went to a local tournament to watch friends play with me. She knows more about the Pro Pool scene than any guy outside of AZ I think.
Should I really just "dump like a pro" COM stlye?
Confused because I think I might have a diamond in the rough here. At least for fun playing.
Pretty strange situation I think.......Thoughts..............???????
Way past bed time on the East Coast. Check back tomorrow. Thanks.
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I don't think there is any way for you to win.
 
Well, I never had balls spotted to me...but when I caught him throwing games, it made me more determined. Also, unless it's league...I never play handicap...always straight up, head-to-head pool.
 
9andout said:
Ok. I've posted on here b4 about dumping to the wife. But here's the problem...
My wife will actually watch Mosconi, World Cup and just about any other pool PPV I buy. Or You Tube stuff. And enjoy / comment correctly on it.
Ok that's a plus right?
I asked for a race to 21 (9 ball) for my birthday. (In AUGUST!!!! mind you)
After tonight it is 15 - 8 me. (not playing too much...(the race)
She gets ball in hand at the beginning of every turn at the table except on the 9.
Of course tonight there was drinking involved....BUT She ended up actually crying about losing tonight. And complaining a lot on the sober nights. WTF?
Also, she is a self described "perfectionist" at work, house etc.....
I told her that's a great reason to practice more and try to "perfect" your pool game. Pool is for "perfectionist's" I think. (talked about this when not drinking at all)

Any advice? She obviously likes pool. (watching) playing, sort of....
and has the basics down pat. I call her "The Queen of Cuts
She goes to SBE every year. Even went to a local tournament to watch friends play with me. She knows more about the Pro Pool scene than any guy outside of AZ I think.
Should I really just "dump like a pro" COM stlye?
Confused because I think I might have a diamond in the rough here. At least for fun playing.
Pretty strange situation I think.......Thoughts..............???????
Way past bed time on the East Coast. Check back tomorrow. Thanks.
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Dude!!!

Take your Viagra, and do "the job".

Your wife plays pool, and you're complaining?!

Let her win! WTF is wrong with you? Do you not like getting your "ashes hauled?"
 
ShootingArts said:
I always tried to keep my own hobbies and space and let my wife have hers. Shooting pool, fishing, hunting, those weren't her things anyway. I tried to encourage her to take up womanly hobbies like cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, the child rearing, cleaning the fish and game I brought home, . . . she didn't really have time for pool anyway! Been about ten or fifteen years since I have seen her, pretty sure we aren't married anymore.

Hu
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This made me lmao. Thank you sir!
 
Ih82luz said:
Dude!!!

Take your Viagra, and do "the job".

Your wife plays pool, and you're complaining?!

Let her win! WTF is wrong with you? Do you not like getting your "ashes hauled?"
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^^^^^^
This!!! :thumbup:

I can think of a thousand ways to make that game more enjoyable for both parties. To start with, I would play naked pool and allow my wife to distract me in any manner she sees fit.

Just do like Grady! Bet high and kiss low. ;)
 
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happy wife

When i met my wife she couldnt hold a cue .She was a 200 ave. bowler and very competitive . Itried to learn to bowl and she tried pool. I got her to take some lessons from a young guy named Mark Wilson.In a years time she playedgood enough she played Peg Ledman even on the barbox.Now her passion is golf took lessons (from a pro)single diget handicap 7 holes in 1. My point is if she really likes pool get her lessons from a real instructor and dont conflict what he says. If she really cares she will learn and injoy it more.Iagree dont let her win ,when she does she will know she really did and yes rub it in your face.And that aint bad either.My wife and i are in our 60,s we have races for(funnnn)and golf matches also.
 
Well I certainly don't have anything good to add but man some of the answers here. Anyways... All things said here have some sort of merit. I think her feelings could be similar if like me she loved to watch baseball but can't hit the broad side of the barn. Well my passion for baseball was instilled by my grandpa and not being able to play did and does make me sad. However I grew up and found other things I enjoyed like playing pool. Honestly Scott Lee's suggestion to buy her lessons is great but only if she really wants to learn other wise you will have a really sad lady by your side. I remember when I first started in league I would cry but I was embarrassed not mad. I lost for about 6 months and won just 1 match that season. Then I learned new things read some books got lessons for my birthday from Scott Lee and Donny Lutz. Now I play by myself when the hubs is busy with his xbox1. And best part last Thanksgiving day I ran my first break and run in 9 ball. We started playing in the leagues in 2012 I think therefore, I think that's pretty good progress. She cries because she cares I get that, she was also acting out because she was drunk and alcohol is a depressant we all know that. And the last thing I will add is that try to keep her on the sober side if she wants to learn it's the only way play.



Good luck with that lady I think you should keep her.



All the best

Loren
 
So she takes an interest in your pool world (watching PPVs and tourneys), yet she sucks at playing and cried when she realized that with BIH, she could never get out from under 15-8? Why has she prolonged the match since August?

This, is your answer. And to quote many already, "Ïf Mama ain't happy, then..."
 
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