Ms. Duddy, You need not defend yourself or others from the type of criticism that is directed your way. However, I am glad that you did. There are still too many (although less than there were) pool –know- it- alls that are eager to show how smart they are by judging others (usually using hindsight).
You know the type; they wax on ad-nauseum from the sidelines or in the chat rooms as to the ball they would have chosen instead, the safety that was obvious to them or how shocked they are that you could have missed the shot. They talk with authority as to who could beat whom, spewing the latest jargon (she doesn’t play at the same speed as....he would have to give weight to....etc. etc. etc. )to further enhance their credentials as experts and illustrate their genius in all things pool. When challenged they say that they are entitled to an opinion, and clearly, they are, but I humbly suggest that the opinions offered should be of the reasoned and educated variety (as many in this string have been) not offered in a snide or mean spirited way.
You have earned respect from others for putting in the effort to improve your game whenever you can (while also having a full time day job as I understand), for putting in your own money to travel to tournaments to compete with the best and for doing the best you can with the resources available to help promote the sport. To those who would challenge you to give more I would ask them to be specific in what else it is they think you should be doing that you are not.