SJD,$Bill, Jay,Grady, Freddie, Island Drive, HELP

Neil said:
I'm not going to make any 'brownie points' with the womens libbers out there, but I'll tell you what I have.

My wife and daughter do all the cooking. They do the dishes. ( I have done them once in 3 yrs.) My wife does the laundry, cleaning. I vacuumed once 4 yrs ago, and my wife came back right after me and did it again. I asked her "What the heck are you doing? I just did that!" she said "I just don't feel right if I don't do it." So, to make her happy, I have learned to relent, and let her do everything! She even cuts all the grass!

Any big jobs, or repair jobs are mine. In return, I basically get no say so on how the furniture is arranged, pictures hung, ect.

All you have to do is screw up the laundry a few times, break a few dishes, ect. She will gladly take over and do those things because you are such an idiot. Spend some extra time trying to really get close to her. She will be asking you why you aren't out practicing pool. (But, the downside is, you better win most of the time!)

The biggest thing is- you have to convince her in no undertain terms that she means more to you than pool. For me, it took breaking a $300 cuestick over the kitchen counter into toothpicks. Whatever it takes. (The very next week she took me to a poolhall, gave me $300, and told me to pick out a stick!)

Some of us may not have money, but we have the stuff that really counts! I couldn't ask for a better wife! (And, no, she isn't reading this.)

Scott can verify this- I even took her to a pool tournament that I played in last fall for her birthday! (Of course, I gave her most of the money I won!)
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pool room on her birthday, my god you spoil that woman! you are a sport.
haha.
 
I lost what I thought at the time were good relationships because of pool, so then I decided to go on strike and simpally ignore girls and play pool. I dont have a high sex drive so it was not a issue for me, also i'm a loner by nature. So being alone is a hanger for me.


After many failed relationships I decided the way to go was tell them everything up front, since I meet girls very easily i dont have to worry about letting one off the hook-like some guys do they say and do anything to keep the girl interested, that never has a good ending.

After telling ALOT of girls about me, my flaws, my good points I found one who took me as I am, she really didnt know about pool because I was in retirement when we met, I told her all about "living pool", since we have been together 9 years I got back into pool, she tollerates it, she like cues, i hope she will want to play, She gives me no shit about doing what I want when I want, I can leave for weeks and she dosent complain, I missed her when I was in Alanta and flew her out and then we went up to JOB's with a friend, She met Shannon,Barry Batrum(chris's brother) and saw hardcore pool, she thinks its cool. Why because when we met she knew what she was getting into, I didnt lie or paint a better picture of who I am,

I handle all the $$, and where we live, etc all the big stuff, she takes carre of all the girl stuff, it works great and were both triple happy, I feel bad about my back because I do have to ask more of her than I want to sometimes.
 
I skip the yard work and take the girl to the pool hall with me.
Shes my doubles pardner and as long as shes playing pool with me, I can get away with all kinds of crap.
 
Dave Nelson said:
Shit, I have sure missed out on a lot of fun. Been married to the same woman for 60 years. But you know what? I can spend all the time I want at the pool room with no complaint. Although she has no interest in pool she is always interested in how I did.

Dave Nelson
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Wow, 60 years, Congrats. Johnnyt
 
Dave Nelson said:
Shit, I have sure missed out on a lot of fun. Been married to the same woman for 60 years. But you know what? I can spend all the time I want at the pool room with no complaint. Although she has no interest in pool she is always interested in how I did.

Dave Nelson
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60 years! My God, was this marriage arranged while you two were still in the crib? That would make you about 62 now, right? :D
 
cubc said:
win at one pocket and pay people to do the yard work?
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Even if you don't win hire people. Yard work sucks. Period. I'm a family man and I don't do yard work. Period. I just do NOT do it. Period. End of story. That's the name of that tune. Period. :cool: ;) :thumbup: :D :) :cool:
 
Hmm...

Hmm... Somehow I see this thread moving to the 'Cues For Sale' section soon.

Don't do it man! Hang in there and stick to your guns. Unless of course, she cries. Then all bets are off and you're on your own. Best of luck.
 
There are no magic words. All I can tell you is that I'm on my third marriage and had many cold nights in between them. Finally I've learned to bend with the wind.
 
JimS said:
Even if you don't win hire people. Yard work sucks. Period. I'm a family man and I don't do yard work. Period. I just do NOT do it. Period. End of story. That's the name of that tune. Period. :cool: ;) :thumbup: :D :) :cool:
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fresh air and sunshine nauseate me, i'm used to smokey old dens of iniquity.
good luck louis, best wishes to your bride.
rodney.
 
Terry Ardeno said:
Lewis,
Maybe your best post ever and for sure the funniest!

I'm no Aristotle or Sockratees, but my advice is all in one word...PRIORITIES.

My pool table provides much enjoyment.

My wife loves me, trusts me, is my almost constant companion and is snuggley when it's time to "go to sleep." My pool table can't touch none of that.

looks pretty good, I'm taking the bait, marriage sounds AOK!

I can't take the old Brunswick with me to Wal-Mart.

no problemo, I don't go to wallyworld anyway.

Me and the 9 footer can't go out to have a nice lunch or dinner. And the big track would break our bed slats. Plus, it can't cook and isn't nearly as beautiful to look at. And my wife is my best friend I ever had. We have awesome time together.

can't argue this, the hook ain't nearly as bad as I thought. Marriage looks pretty good!

My Beloved Brunswick can only listen to me when I talk to it. My wife can ANSWER! :D

I have taken the line and can feel the sinker in my mouth! I'm going for this marriage thing. Wait a minute, I just heard the screech of my PO'ed ex's voice when I read "ANSWER". All wives talk? Would anybody think I was a pervert if I just picked out a nice Diamond table?

I was running around with a drop dead gorgeous black girl when I met my wife. Her nose and butt were both a little wide and she had what was sometimes referred to as an apple ass but she could really step out when she wanted to. Biggest brown eyes you have ever seen. Way less than half my age and loved me like crazy. Looking back I should have just kept her, best horse I ever had!

Hu
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my message was too short so I fixed it
 
Wow!

Dave Nelson said:
Shit, I have sure missed out on a lot of fun. Been married to the same woman for 60 years. But you know what? I can spend all the time I want at the pool room with no complaint. Although she has no interest in pool she is always interested in how I did.

Dave Nelson
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Congrats Dave!!

I will be celebrating my Silver this December and My wife is the same way! Could be cause I always throw her some jelly when I get some! (jelly)

She brings me coffee in bed every morning, handles all the finances as I request and can cook really well. She starches and irons all my clothes including my jeans. Always packs my bags for tournaments!! Even includes a packing list so if anything is missing i can add it for the next tourny!:shocked2:

I don't know what I did to deserve her but I guess I'll keep her! LOL.

I recently ran into Lewis & Patty in a grassy knoll behind a pool hall making out like teenagers! I was kinda jealous! LOL.

Ray
 
Corvette might lend Ironman his landscape crew and that way he can avoid the sweating and let them mow his lawn. After they finish, Ironman can play them some one pocket and beat them out of the money he paid them to cut the grass.
JoeyA
 
She Laughs & Laughs & Laughs

My wife ENCOURAGES me to go out and play pool and poker at every opportunity, because she just LOVES to listen to my bad beat stories and watch my face turn all red and my bottom lip starts to quiver and all.....

Doug
 
ironman said:
Not many know, but I got married back on June 16th to a beautiful and wonderful wonam here in San Antonio Tx.
I love her madly and worship the ground she walks on and would do "most" anything to keep her happy.
The problem has become that she has led a "much different life" than I and doesn't understand the mentality of pool players at all.
For example, she almost had me convinced this morning that yard work and other domestic chores were actually good for a person and would keep him healthy. So, I got up, made her coffee, fed the dogs, the cat, and THEN, mowed the yard!!!!!!
The problem is that I started to sweat and it near scared the s### out of me. Once I was done, I was entirely too tired to go to the pool room and play $30.00 one pocket.
Now don't misunderstand me, I love her dearly and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but, how did you guys convince her, or yours to do the yard work and leave the important things like going to the pool room daily, to us.
Any advice would be much appreciated???!!!???
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Simple. Get her a Nordstroms credit card and a GPS. She'll never be home to know your at the pool hall. Works for me, and BTW, you might want to think about a second job.
 
Ironman I hope that you can make it as long as I have happily, on this day in 1980 we were married and I just left my pool tournament and stopped at Wallgreens to buy a card at 3:30 am. I stuff in a little cash for clothing and whatever she wants to buy and we will both be looking for 28 more great years, and by the way she is the captain of our APA nine ball team so she is cool with pool.--Leonard
 
ironman said:
Not many know, but I got married back on June 16th to a beautiful and wonderful wonam here in San Antonio Tx.
I love her madly and worship the ground she walks on and would do "most" anything to keep her happy.
The problem has become that she has led a "much different life" than I and doesn't understand the mentality of pool players at all.
For example, she almost had me convinced this morning that yard work and other domestic chores were actually good for a person and would keep him healthy. So, I got up, made her coffee, fed the dogs, the cat, and THEN, mowed the yard!!!!!!
The problem is that I started to sweat and it near scared the s### out of me. Once I was done, I was entirely too tired to go to the pool room and play $30.00 one pocket.
Now don't misunderstand me, I love her dearly and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but, how did you guys convince her, or yours to do the yard work and leave the important things like going to the pool room daily, to us.
Any advice would be much appreciated???!!!???
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Well hello everyone,

I am still a AZ forum lurker, even though I have not played more than a handful of games in the past 2 years (and I can't remember the YEAR of my last post). But this particular post just happened to hit the spot. So I figured I owed it to post again after quite a few years.

My story is that I used to play everyday and said everything that has been said in this post already. I even told my girlfriend years ago (now wife of 3+ years - with her almost 11 years) that I would not quit playing pool and that if she asked me to choose, she would lose.

However, things change. I wanted to believe that I could keep improving to be able to play full time. But after competing full time for a year and a half in the Northeast tours (they changed names many times) and on the Joss Tour, and gambling, I quickly realized how futile playing pool would be in order to create an excellent life for myself and my wife (excellent being the important word here - not to simply pay bills) I simply was not able to regularly compete with those on the professional levels and anything below the top spots was below minimum wage.

I work for a financial investments firm, bought a house several years ago (with a nice 1/2 acre fenced in lot for my two furry boys), got married, and am expecting our first child early next year. My priorities strictly and severly changed to paying off debt and amassing as much wealth as possible so I can play golf every day when I retire (I love the game even though I can not play it reasonably well (I need the 5-7 and the breaks on the links)) I do also do chores weekly around the house, not because my wife tells me to, but because I know they need to be done.

I truly miss being able to simply go out and play pool (gamble) for 10-20 hours plus, worry free. My wife is good about it as I have not been playing for years, even though I sometimes catch myself really wanting to go out and matchup for half a day. I am sure that if I wanted to play, it would not be an issue at all since I do not do it regularly anymore. If it was, the ensuing arguement, I would certainly win as I ceased to play for so many years and I am sure she remembers my prior promise above. But unfortunately, I lack the initiative at this point.

I do envy those of you whose significant other plays or interacts with you playing this sport. My wife can't even hold a cue and has no desire to. But I love her dearly for everything we have accomplished recently.

My desire to play again is also tempered by my fear that my level of play would be so inferior to what is was before, that I would consider any competitive return a failure. But reading this forum does keep my interest up somewhat (thanks to all of you on this forum for that! - you too Superstar) I enjoy some of the banter and thank you for that.

The true point of my post is that even though you are not certain of your relationship based on your wife's dissatisfaction of your pool playing habits, you may find a different happy medium in time. Just give it a chance. Even though I will never try to play full time/semi-professionally at any point, I am sure I will try to play competitively again at some point. I am just letting my cue age for a little. :smile:

I wish you luck and hope pool does not make you make any rash, regretable decisions in regards to your relationship.

Phil S
 
Hopefully your wife got a taste of the pool part of your life before getting married. I would find a way for your wife to relate to you and pool. Stick her on a BCA or APA team/league. As for the yard, hire someone else to do it or move into a neighborhood, town house, apartment or what not where it's part of the HOA fees.

I'm not to big on marriage or commitments myself, but that's probably because I haven't "met the one". Non pool players don't understand and pool players... I'll leave that unsaid.

Good luck to you. I hope your marriage works out and you stay married til death do you part:smile: .
 
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hilla_hilla said:
Hopefully your wife got a taste of the pool part of your life before getting married. I would find a way for your wife to relate to you and pool. Stick her on a BCA or APA team/league. As for the yard, hire someone else to do it or move into a neighborhood, town house, apartment or what not where it's part of the HOA fees.

I'm not to big on marriage or commitments myself, but that's probably because I haven't "met the one". Non pool players don't understand and pool players... I'll leave that unsaid.

Good luck to you. I hope your marriage works out and you stay married til death do you part:smile: .
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I think it time to clear something up here.

When I met my wife, like you I wasn't too big on marriage and commitments either. I had endured a nasty divorce years prior and the pool room had replaced life for me. When I met Patty, things and views changed very quickly
and suddenly I couldnnn't imagine l ife without her. Cupid had shot me right in th ass and I didn't walk down the isle, I ran down the aisle to say I do.

Pool has been a great part of my life and furnished me with unforgettable memories of all vaieties. Some good, some not so good, but, some I'll never let go of. I still play a little, but nothing like before and being home and domesticated is really no chore at all.

As far as our pasts go, my wife are as opposite as night and day and we support each other fully. She is a school teacher { a great one I might add} and I promote pool and happy with what I do. My Gun Slinger days are over, but, at times I can still hold my own. But, I no longer hide in the pool rooms. She gets home at 4:00Pm and at 3:15, I'm headed home, if no already there and that is by choice.

So, I started this just to have some fun and to pick at my wife a bit. It has been fun too. SOme of the testamonials have been inspiring and quite impressive. It has been fun and a nice change of pace here on the forums.

I ws never a great player but at one time played pretty well and was involved in a couple of pretty healthy scores. All in all though I survived. Now, I'm a bit older and my perspectives have changed.

Today, I have a tournament to run but, before I go I have coffee brewing and I'm going totake a cup to my wife who is still in bed. She will turn over and smile at me and that makes that all worth while. We will then go sit on the back prch for a while and look at the yard I finished yesterday and then she will prepare breakfast as I get ready to go to the tournament. It will go just fine and I will catch up with her this evening. It's the best of both worlds.

You see, dreams do come true!!

Thanks to all.
 
I have been married for 3 great years, the other 22 have been hell. I'm not talking about 3 years in a row either, more like an hour here and 30 minutes there but it adds up to about 3 years. We actually had one great day about 13 years ago (I think she was out of town).:smile: :smile: :smile:

Seriously, I wouldn't trade the last 25 years for anything. Yes my time at the table took a hit when we bought a house and had kids but it was worth it. Now the girls are grown and I have more time to play, she understands how much I enjoy it and that it is like stress relief for me.

The best marriage advice I can give is what my Dad told me right before I got married.

Shut Your Pie Hole.

Good luck to you. Remember as with everything in life the key is balance.

Andy
 
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