Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool

Man are there a lot of disfunctional people on here!!

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Dood..... you SUCK at negotiating!

You're asking a bunch of addicts or reformed addicts to condone your addiction vs. a LIFE!!!???

Forget pool...... forget moving in with someone.....
if you already can't sit down and talk together... you're doomed!!


Hmmmm?? A loving family vs. playing pool ..................

"You CANNOT be serious" :grin-square:


td
 
put up a picture of her and her daughter and you might get better advice. a good woman by ur side is better than a bad game of pool, plus if you stop pool now you can ease back into it once you show her ur willing to make her happy. 5/6 nights a week is a bit much anyway
 
It is time to dump her. She is clearly being selfish here as she is more concerned about someone being there for her & her kid & not what makes you happy. Compromising is usually code for "You're ****ed".

She knows this is your passion, she met you there for heaven's sake & now she wants you to cool it? She is putting her needs over yours so people spare me the speech of doing what is right & love.........
 
FWIW, playing leagues almost every night of the week is/will be a total burn out for ANYONE. I've never known anyone who could put up with that much BS with pool leagues week after week.
 
I'm 56, too, Perk. Good take on women...I had similar expericenes.

Then there's the recent future...

I'm at league last week and two nice 20-something girls are drinking and hanging out. One had a peace sign on her top so I flipped the peace sign at her a few times during the night. She basically ignored me, just as I figured she would.

I happened over near them and the jukebox was loud and my hearing isn't what it used to be and I'd had a few and one of them said something. I said something back and they both said in unison: "Oh that is so sweeet," and showed body language that was nice. I thought, what the hell did I say or what did they hear? I had finally found THE Holy Grail...THE secret code for women and I had no idea what is was! Damn!

Later, one of them came up to me and rubbed against me and hugged and whispered in my ear, "I doing this for only you, tonight," and continued to rub. :) Being married and old enough to be her father, I just smiled and took it while I could get it---I ain't gettin' any younger. I told my wife about it when I got home and she laughed (she knows the truth...lol).

If I could remember what I said to those girls or what they thought I said, I'd write a book and make a million.

Damn.

Jeff Livingston
 
Hard to be a family man and be out playing pool 4 or 5 nights a week. See if she will compromise and let you play one or two nights a week, or get a table at home to play on. It ain't going to work being out at night that much with the wife at home alone. That's just the way it is.

If you are going to be a family man you will have to sacrifice some of the things you did when you were single. Raising a family isn't for everybody.

You asked for opinions, there it is. Oh, and I've been married for 35 years.
 
Deep down she wants you to take charge, so tell her how it's gonna be and let her decide if she wants to hang around. Then get a place that has room for a nice 9ft. , and move her and the little one in with you and the table.

Pool 6 nights a week will burn you out, so give up a few nights and stay home and bang it around with her. You now have reserve guilt trip for the next thing she wants changed plus you are still playing pool.

A little sob story about what you gave up for her around b-day might even be worth a Szamboti!
 
Nick B said:
Do what every other married man does. Marry her and lie.

Every Saturday I go to the office to catch up at work.
Tuesday Night I visit my mother
Thursday Night I'm help a friend with a home reno project

Other nights I'm..."fill in excuse here"

I get enough Heroin to keep me happy. Otherwise insure her to the max and research what OJ did wrong. :eek:
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I tried that. I told my wife I was having an affair, but after she found blue chalk stains on my shirt, it was all over!!! :grin:

Steve
 
IMHO i went thru this 2 times. Once they ask, even if they let the subject go for awhile (2-6 months goes by) it will get brought up again..........then its too late. Deal with it now.

I made a bit of a deal with my wife, that i would go from 5 nights to 2 or 3, without her asking. We've never had a problem in 10 years about me going out. Infact now and then i still am playing 5 nights a week if some action or whatever is going on. I got super lucky with her.
 
markpatrick said:
Dont do it. :mad::mad::mad:
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Do it!!!!!!!!

Jeff Livingston
 
I resemble that remark...............

SpiderWebComm said:
Finally something we agree on.

I got rid of every single one til I found one that let me be me.
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Always looking for a place to use this line and I thought here is an opportunity.

Have a great day...........:clapping::groucho:....
 
Ky Boy said:
I would find a new girlfriend!!!! It will only get worse when you marry her!!!!!!

That is the best advice I can give unless you want to move in and give up your balls forever while being lead around like a dog on a leash!!!!

Gary<---------has no balls!!
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Words of wisdom!
 
Sweet Marissa said:
Fall of 1997... Met a guy and fell in love.

Spring of 1998... Got married. Moved in together. Then the controlling behaviour appeared. He made me quit pool. He even threw away my cue. I wasn't allowed to drive my own car - he had his best friend drive me when I needed. Made me leave school and get a waitressing job at a bar he went to. In order to have a ride home, I had to relinquish all my tips, and that's after putting his and his friends' drinks on my tab.

Winter of 1999... The divorce was finalised. During which he fought for my camera, and I never got back my photographs, artwork, movies, clothes, furniture, and more which he took when we separated.

Don't give up something you love and are passionate about for any person, especially when they know about it coming into that relationship.
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Marissa, I'm sure you're as beautiful as you are wise. Five to one this guy folds like a cheap suit.
 
I think Neil put it in perspective for you.I don't know your age but I don't think your ready for commitment.Wait at least another 9 months to see if the 2 of you still feel the same way.Most importantly talk it out with her.Not on AZ.
 
sorry to say and I have to admit I haven't had the chance to read everyone's response to this thread, but to me when a couple loves and supports each other as individuals they do not ask each other to give up an activity such as a sport or game completely. Now if one half of a couple is neglecting their significant other because they're playing 7 nights a week, that is something different. Balance is important. Wish you luck. Hate to say it, but sometimes pool and romance can be a tricky high wire act to say the least.
 
I can't tell you how many pool playing friends of mine meet a women who at first didn't mind their pool playing. Most even took up pool or at least came with them to league night or the pool room etc etc. That is until they get married. Then girl friend/wife stops coming to pool event and then the guy slowly stop coming.

After reading your delima I now know what happened to them.

Take it for what it's worth.

On a side note: My wife of 25+_ years suddenly decided she hated my guts and claims it's becasue I "betrayed her" When I pressed her on what this betrayal was she annonuced it was that I played pool. WTF?!! LOL


Of course if you really love her, and she you, perhaps you can work out a compromise.
 
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