Yeah I didn't follow the other thread to the end. But telling Jim to give the refund or else he'd out him in public, is bordering blackmail. That's not the way you bring out the best in people. And Jim's absence may be him attempting to take the high road in all this. Who knows? Nobody but the two involved know the truth. Coming public & being the only one to speak opens the OP up to public scrutiny. And for $250, you are very much correct that it might be a lot of money for the OP. But it's not a lot of money in the subject of cues, especially custom cues. $250 is a bargain, even for a deposit. If he were letting money dictate his decision making, then the old addage, "you get what you pay for", comes into play. $250 is $250 no matter who you are & it's good money. But the time & effort & stress the OP has put into ruining another man's reputation over that $250, he could have picked up $250 of aluminum cans from the roadside.
I don't disagree with you, or anybody else on here. Everybody has valid points. But the truth has yet to be revealed & as such, everything is speculative. The only thing we all know is that a cuemaker's business is going to suffer because of this. That's the only evident truth. Knowing that a guy will be losing lots of money without any actual proof of his fault is kind of saddening to me. It's not right. If he brought it on himself, then by all means he should expect to deal with the consequences. But the fact is nobody but he & the OP know for sure, and the OP's the only one talking. Like any other deal gone south, most likely both parties feel they are in the right. Again, it's just sad to see a guy suffer without justification. I was only offering up another perspective for thought.
I'd like to address some points you've made and I'd like to make some of my own. I underlined some of the thoughts in your post that I thought were important to point out. While you've made it clear that you're only trying to provide another point of view, what you've also said could be construed as you basically calling me a liar. I don't know if you simply skimmed over the original post or not but I was very detailed about everything, right down to the dates of the messages, and that's because I still have all of the messages saved. Obviously I can't record telephone conversations legally, so I guess that part is going to have to be believed on faith. I'm not out to ruin anyone, I've given Jim plenty of time and opportunities to make this right, and I've hardly gone through any extra to ruin him.
I originally asked Jim for an ETA. I never said a firm due date, I specifically said ETA because that's what I was looking for, an Estimated Time of Arrival. He himself said 8 months or a bit earlier, and while I wasn't pleased with that answer, I accepted it. But 8 months go by and NOTHING new has been completed? How is that at all acceptable?
Jim also agreed to the refund on the 18th of January. My last conversation with him was March 8th, the same day I posted up the thread. That's nearly two months that I gave him to get the refund back to me, and when I contacted him about it, it was like he didn't have any idea what I was talking about. When I tell him that I'm tired of being jerked around and that I'll post on the board seeking a resolution, his response is to threaten me with holding my deposit hostage.
So yes, I posted up on the board seeking a resolution. What other option did I have? Should I have just let him keep the money? And I hardly see it as trying to ruin his reputation. He's the one who hasn't delivered on anything. He's the one who threatened to keep my deposit if I went public. If his reputation is now ruined it's because of his own actions, not mine.
Edit - I forgot to address why I made this second thread. I think this thread needs to stick around so that when someone searches for Jim's name, they may find it. I don't think any one situation is enough to ruin anyone, but I think someone could still use it to make a decision on which cuemaker to settle with. I also wanted to make it public that Smokey was true to his word and I thought that his actions were phenomenal, regardless of the argument he got into in the other thread.