Tell the whole story...how do you suggest he phrase it??
Thanks BB. I was about to ask the same thing. I thought I asked about as friendly as I could?
And thanks for the other comments too!
Tell the whole story...how do you suggest he phrase it??
And then, at the end...so what are you doing in the pool hall anyway?!:wink:The logical extreme for a diplomatic invitation to gamble, assuming you're not a hustler but an honest person looking for fair action ----
"Forgive the interruption. My name's John. I wanted to ask you a question and if you say no, I'll understand in full. I was wondering if you might enjoy playing a match with me for a few dollars. I've seen you play and I think the match would be close. You'd be doing me a favor, for in my experience, the pressure of a small wager helps me to perform at a higher level. As I said, though, if you'd rather not, that's OK." The invitaiton may be accepted, but if the player does not wish to gamble, say "have a nice evening and good luck with your practice and, once again, I'm sorry to have interrupted you."
No matter how this turns out, you have treated this person with respect.
I never ask anyone to gamble that I havent seen gambling..., I might ask them if they gamble, that way they can say yes or no and not be under any pressure..., having said that though, if you ask a guy to play a set for a few bucks, it should not be a big deal, gambler or no gambler.
If you saked to play for $20 a game of $100 a set, well that might sound steep to a guy that doesnt play for cash, but $5 or $10 a set sounds friendly enough that it should not offend.
Over the last few months I have asked 3 different guys to play cheap and it seemed to really upset them. None of these folks were friends of mine or anything. My relationship with them is simply to say "hi" when I see them. They were all between 40 and mid 50's. I'm in my mid 30's. The situations have pretty much been the same. I would simply ask, "hey, do you want to play some cheap practice sets for like $10 or $20 a set?". I have never asked them in front of anyone else because I don't want them to be embarrassed if they don't want to play. I also said it quietly, so as not to be calling them out or anything. I have a really hard time focusing if it's for nothing. As far as skill goes, all three of these guys play very similar to me. Nobody really has an edge. In fact, two of the three beat me in short tournament races the last time they played me.
All three times they made an excuse that didn't make any sense and now won't make eye contact with me or speak to me first.I feel like a jerk just because I don't like anyone being upset with me. I can understand if you don't gamble. That's fine, but you don't have to get mad about it. Gambling is part of pool and always will be IMO. Anyone else have this experience or can provide perspective from their side perhaps? Thanks.
Over the last few months I have asked 3 different guys to play cheap and it seemed to really upset them. None of these folks were friends of mine or anything. My relationship with them is simply to say "hi" when I see them. They were all between 40 and mid 50's. I'm in my mid 30's. The situations have pretty much been the same. I would simply ask, "hey, do you want to play some cheap practice sets for like $10 or $20 a set?". I have never asked them in front of anyone else because I don't want them to be embarrassed if they don't want to play. I also said it quietly, so as not to be calling them out or anything. I have a really hard time focusing if it's for nothing. As far as skill goes, all three of these guys play very similar to me. Nobody really has an edge. In fact, two of the three beat me in short tournament races the last time they played me.
All three times they made an excuse that didn't make any sense and now won't make eye contact with me or speak to me first.I feel like a jerk just because I don't like anyone being upset with me. I can understand if you don't gamble. That's fine, but you don't have to get mad about it. Gambling is part of pool and always will be IMO. Anyone else have this experience or can provide perspective from their side perhaps? Thanks.
I don't know why people call 5-10 dollar sets gambling. Gambling is when you stand to be hurt if you lose. Where you can't pay the rent or feed the kids. That's a gamble. Playing for cheap is giving the game a nominal meaning so you're not just banging balls which gets old fast and breeds poor habits. These same people who play even with you but won't put a dime on it will sit in front of the lottery machine and feed twenties in like there's no bottom to their wallet. With absolutely no measurable chance of winning. I have a much better chance winning a 9 ball race to five with any player alive than beating a machine designed to steal my money by mathematicians. A much better chance and it will take longer to do thus minimizing my cost per minute of my life spent. It's just too personal for some to lose to another human, which I don't quite understand. If you expect me to believe you can't afford it I better not see you over at those machines in a few minutes.
Over the last few months I have asked 3 different guys to play cheap and it seemed to really upset them. None of these folks were friends of mine or anything. My relationship with them is simply to say "hi" when I see them. They were all between 40 and mid 50's. I'm in my mid 30's. The situations have pretty much been the same. I would simply ask, "hey, do you want to play some cheap practice sets for like $10 or $20 a set?". I have never asked them in front of anyone else because I don't want them to be embarrassed if they don't want to play. I also said it quietly, so as not to be calling them out or anything. I have a really hard time focusing if it's for nothing. As far as skill goes, all three of these guys play very similar to me. Nobody really has an edge. In fact, two of the three beat me in short tournament races the last time they played me.
All three times they made an excuse that didn't make any sense and now won't make eye contact with me or speak to me first.I feel like a jerk just because I don't like anyone being upset with me. I can understand if you don't gamble. That's fine, but you don't have to get mad about it. Gambling is part of pool and always will be IMO. Anyone else have this experience or can provide perspective from their side perhaps? Thanks.
I can understand if you don't gamble...
Over the last few months I have asked 3 different guys to play cheap and it seemed to really upset them. None of these folks were friends of mine or anything. My relationship with them is simply to say "hi" when I see them. They were all between 40 and mid 50's. I'm in my mid 30's. The situations have pretty much been the same. I would simply ask, "hey, do you want to play some cheap practice sets for like $10 or $20 a set?". I have never asked them in front of anyone else because I don't want them to be embarrassed if they don't want to play. I also said it quietly, so as not to be calling them out or anything. I have a really hard time focusing if it's for nothing. As far as skill goes, all three of these guys play very similar to me. Nobody really has an edge. In fact, two of the three beat me in short tournament races the last time they played me.
All three times they made an excuse that didn't make any sense and now won't make eye contact with me or speak to me first.I feel like a jerk just because I don't like anyone being upset with me. I can understand if you don't gamble. That's fine, but you don't have to get mad about it. Gambling is part of pool and always will be IMO. Anyone else have this experience or can provide perspective from their side perhaps? Thanks.
A very few people will get up and play for money even if it is a close game or they have the worst of it.
Most people want to steal something.
Those guys have probably been around the poolroom enough to figure someone put you on them or that you are taking a cheap shot at them.
I'm not saying you were , I have no way to know.
Ask yourself how you would have felt if one of them had said I won't play for cheap but I'll play a race to 5 for a thousand.
I wish I had a dollar for every time someone came in and wanted to play for money and lost and left and could not pay.
I know a couple on this forum.
They are always talking about gambling it up , yet, I know people they have stiffed and will never pay.
They didn't lose a thousand and went out oweing a hundred, they lost 20 dollars and only had 8 on them. And the time was 15.00
It's a shame that every time this happens it is not an unwritten rule that the whole poolroom takes them outside and everyone ***** slaps them.
It would not be as prevalent.
Over the last few months I have asked 3 different guys to play cheap and it seemed to really upset them. None of these folks were friends of mine or anything. My relationship with them is simply to say "hi" when I see them. They were all between 40 and mid 50's. I'm in my mid 30's. The situations have pretty much been the same. I would simply ask, "hey, do you want to play some cheap practice sets for like $10 or $20 a set?". I have never asked them in front of anyone else because I don't want them to be embarrassed if they don't want to play. I also said it quietly, so as not to be calling them out or anything. I have a really hard time focusing if it's for nothing. As far as skill goes, all three of these guys play very similar to me. Nobody really has an edge. In fact, two of the three beat me in short tournament races the last time they played me.
All three times they made an excuse that didn't make any sense and now won't make eye contact with me or speak to me first.I feel like a jerk just because I don't like anyone being upset with me. I can understand if you don't gamble. That's fine, but you don't have to get mad about it. Gambling is part of pool and always will be IMO. Anyone else have this experience or can provide perspective from their side perhaps? Thanks.